35 Things a Stylish Woman Should Have in Her 30s

“A woman, till five-and-thirty, is only looked upon as a raw girl, and can possibly make no noise in the world till about forty.” Mary Wortley Montagu (1689-1762) English poet, essayist, letter writer. excerpt from a letter to Lady Rich, (20 September 1716), Letters, 1767

My twenties were a whirlwind of fact-finding, exploration and recognizing insecurities, and now that I am in my early thirties, I can say with certainty, it only gets better. So far my thirties have been far richer (primarily experientially) and more fulfilling, yet this is not to say without struggles and challenges. In fact, I can safely say that the challenges have proven themselves to be more difficult than in my twenties. However, the gained wisdom from these lessons learned made it much easier to navigate, and I have no doubt with such wisdom helped me to avoid unnecessary frustrations. Having just turned 30 I am still on a journey of self discovery of being the woman I want to be. Mary Wortley Montagu is correct and 30 is the end of being a girl, I say I’m ready and preparing to make some worthwhile noise, and I hear it only gets better. I want to share 35 things I have found to be beneficial to attain – whether an actual physical item or particular knowledge – as we all navigate this transitional decade of a woman’s life.

1. A classic shoe (be it a flat, boot or pump that fits your signature style)

2. A quality timepiece

3. A complementary lip color

4. A work uniform that is appropriate and stylish

5. A signature perfume

6. A preferred flower (or one for each season)

7. Jewelry that is stunning and irreplaceable

8. Original art that is priceless to you

9. An investment tote that could last your lifetime

10. A quality, chic winter coat

11. A black dress that is indispensable

12. A hair style that reveals you’re a woman who knows her unique beauty

13. Regular access to knowledge and information about the world

14. A growing retirement account

15. The strength to say no

16. The knowledge to know when to exercise this ability and when to set your fears aside and say yes instead

17. The courage to take a risk on your dreams

18. An understanding of good health: more water, less pop, more regular exercise, less body loathing, more real food, less quick processed food

19. The ability to cook a meal to impress anyone you wish

20. The self-respect that having said cooking abilities means you are not obligated to do so simply because you are a woman

21. Your own definition for a contented life

22. How to fall in love without losing herself in the process

23. Respect for your body – Physically (a fitness regimen), Objectively (savvy to fawning charm from outsiders who might only see a woman’s body and nothing else) and Mentally (eating well to nourish not diminish the brain’s abilities)

24. Signature stationery and the knowledge of how to craft a lovely Thank You note

25. A small handful of trusted confidants

26. At least one tremendous risk that you are unapologetically proud of

27. A broken heart that has rebounded and stepped forward from the past

28. Rejection or challenges that have made you appreciate the success that followed

29. The knowledge of common grammar rules (i.e. How are you doing? I’m doing (good) well.)

30. A morning and night beauty routine that is nourishing and complimentary to your skin type and your lifestyle, rich night and/or eye cream. An ability to apply natural looking makeup (never go to bed without removing your makeup)

31. An understanding that drama should be reserved for film, the theater and television, not one’s form of daily entertainment and conversation

32. Time or financial support (no matter how much or how little) given to causes you are passionate about

33. To have read at least one of these books

34. An aesthetician you trusts for your beauty needs – waxing, massage, facial, nails

35. A passport and evidence of the beginning of a well-traveled life

While I still have a long way to go, I am eager to see what the future has in store and confident that while I will make continued mistakes along the way, gems of wisdom will be the parting gift to help make each year richer and more wonderful than the past years.


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